Key characteristics and developmental needs of toddlers
Core Idea: Toddlers have distinct developmental characteristics that appear predictably around 12-36 months, including a strong sense of order, resistance to sharing, asserting independence, and emotional expression.
Key Elements
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Order and Consistency Needs
- Develop strong preference for routine and consistency
- Thrive on predictable sequences and rituals
- Need "a place for everything and everything in its place"
- Become particular about specific objects and routines
- Research shows children with consistent routines become more adaptable long-term
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Social Development Characteristics
- Resist sharing while focused on mastery
- Need support with turn-taking rather than forced sharing
- Benefit from language like "It will be available soon"
- Complete activities thoroughly before moving on
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Independence and Autonomy
- Frequently say "no" as part of establishing identity
- Express strong preferences about activities and choices
- Cry of "Me do it!" indicates desire for independence
- Need balance of freedom and clear boundaries for security
- Require meaningful challenges to avoid challenging adults
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Emotional Development
- Express emotions freely and intensely
- Need tantrums as emotional release
- Require empathetic response: "Tell me about it" rather than "Don't be silly"
- Process feelings in the moment rather than suppressing them
- Benefit from help making amends after emotional episodes
Connections
- Related Concepts: Managing Tantrums in Babies (emotional regulation), Environment Preparation vs Entertainment (supporting autonomy)
- Broader Context: Montessori View of Child Development (developmental stages)
- Applications: Creating a Toddler-friendly Environment (practical setup)
References
- Davies, S. (2021). The Montessori Baby.
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