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Fostering autonomy and capability during the second and third years

Core Idea: Toddlers have a passionate drive toward independence ("I do it myself") that can be supported through practical life activities, prepared environments, and respectful guidance that builds confidence and competence.

Key Elements

Developmental Characteristics

• Strong desire for autonomy ("I do it myself" phase)
• Growing physical capabilities enabling self-care
• Desire to participate in "adult" activities
• Need for order and routine
• Development of will and choice-making
• Pride in accomplishment and mastery
• Sensitive period for refinement of movement
• Increasing language abilities supporting independence

Practical Life Activities by Age

12-18 months

• Pour water/milk using small jug
• Add milk to cereal
• Wipe up spills with hand mitt
• Take plate to kitchen
• Drink from a glass
• Brush hair and teeth with assistance
• Wash hands
• Put dirty clothes in laundry basket
• Choose between two clothing options
• Help put toys away

18 months to 3 years

• Prepare snacks and simple meals
• Peel and slice soft fruits
• Set and clear the table
• Clean windows and surfaces
• Water plants and arrange flowers
• Dress with minimal assistance
• Help with laundry sorting
• Assist with shopping and groceries
• Help care for pets
• Participate in food preparation

3 to 4 years

• Unload dishwasher
• Measure ingredients for cooking
• Make bed by pulling up covers
• Use toilet independently
• Dress completely
• Feed pets
• Fold laundry
• Help with recycling
• Vacuum and clean

Implementation Principles

• Prepared Environment

  • Child-sized tools and utensils
  • Accessible storage for self-help items
  • Step stools for reaching sinks and counters
  • Low hooks and shelves for personal belongings
  • Organization systems visual to the child

• Adult Approach

  • Put out only manageable amounts of materials
  • Have cleaning supplies accessible
  • Focus on process, not result
  • Allow for imperfection in the outcome
  • Accept that tasks will take longer with toddler help
  • Be patient and allow for repetition

Benefits

• Learning responsibility in the home
• Building concentration and focus
• Creating sense of belonging through contribution
• Developing fine and gross motor skills
• Expanding vocabulary through practical activities
• Building confidence and self-reliance
• Learning care for self, others, and environment
• Establishing foundation for lifelong helpfulness

Additional Connections

• Related Concepts: Montessori in Infancy (foundation for toddler independence)
• Applications: Practical Life Activities for Toddlers (specific activities)
• Broader Context: Sensitive Periods (developmental windows for independence)
• See Also: Montessori Home Environment (prepared spaces for independence)

References

1. Davies, S. (2019). The Montessori Toddler.
2. Montessori, M. The Absorbent Mind
3. Polk Lillard, P. & Lillard, L.L. Montessori from the Start

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Sources:

• From: Independence in Infancy