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Using affirmative communication instead of negative prohibitions

Core Idea: Rather than saying "no" or "don't," using positive language tells babies what they can do and builds a foundation for constructive communication.

Key Elements

• Rephrasing Prohibitions

  • Instead of "no" or "don't do that," describe desired behavior
  • Example: "Food stays on our plate or goes in our mouth" rather than "Don't throw food"
  • Focus on what TO DO rather than what NOT to do
  • Acknowledge completion: "You seem to be done, I'll take the plate away"

• Teaching by Teaching Principle

  • Observe unwanted behavior without immediate correction
  • Wait for a separate moment to demonstrate preferred alternative
  • Show what to do instead of highlighting what not to do
  • Create opportunities for positive learning

• Strategic Use of "No"

  • Reserve "no" for truly important situations
  • When used sparingly, "no" maintains its significance
  • Recognize that sometimes "no" is necessary and appropriate
  • Use tone and facial expression to reinforce importance

• Language and Brain Development

  • Positive language helps develop positive neural pathways
  • Affirmative instructions are easier for babies to process
  • Consistent language patterns support language acquisition
  • Models constructive communication patterns for later life

Connections

• Related Concepts: Respectful Communication with Babies (overall approach), Managing Tantrums in Babies (preventative communication)
• Broader Context: Montessori Approach to Discipline (guiding rather than controlling)
• Applications: Setting Boundaries with Babies (practical implementation)

References

1. Davies, S. (2021). The Montessori Baby.

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Sources:

• From: Davies-The Montessori Baby